As trite as it may be, I do believe that people come into our lives for a reason, a season, or a lifetime. Over time, I have learned to apply this to my past relationships. Most of them ended horribly, and I walked (or crawled) away feeling like I added another failure to my belt. I would feel like all the time invested in that relationship was a waste of time because it didn’t ‘work out’. That attitude makes for an empty, meaningless life.
Today, as I’ve grown closer to God, I see that every person he’s put on my path, even if only for a short season, was put there for a reason and a purpose. It can be incredibly difficult to see the lesson through the loss and the pain, but with time and space comes perspective.
If you believe that God has a plan for you, you must also believe that God has specifically designed each of your relationships. I recently experienced the ending of another relationship and my first reaction was that I had failed again and wasted another X number of months of my life on something that wasn’t meant to be. Then, when I turned to God in prayer and reflection, I realized how much I learned about myself, my wants, my needs, and my non-negotiables in a partner. I also saw for me how God does for me what I cannot do for myself. It never ceases to amaze me how He takes care of me. I am reminded by these types of situations that sometimes I don’t give God enough credit.
Our faith must work in and through us 24 hours a day.
“Above all, be true to yourself, and if you cannot put your heart in it, take yourself out of it.” Hardy D. Jackson
Oh what good guidance this is, but how many of us actually live this way…leading with our hearts?
How true this is in regard to relationships and jobs. According to Jackson, we should abandon ship when we’re no longer ‘feelin it’. I think this is a fair statement, especially in relationships. I’m a big proponent for not stringing people along. It’s not fair to either party to be in something when your heart isn’t in it. Prolonging the pain just makes it more painful.
I’m sure there is a statistic for this, but I would assume that the majority of people are not being true to themselves in their jobs. How many of you love what you do for work? Can you honestly say that everyday you go to work and ‘your heart is in it.’ Those who can say yes to this are blessed and I invite you to comment on how to achieve that. Most of us, are governed by our heads rather than our hearts when it comes to our careers. This seems logical and practical, but then again when it comes to something you do for 7.5 hours (excluding commuting time) per day, at least 5 days a week, so basically most of your life, don’t you think we’d want our hearts to play a bigger role?
I know it all sounds rather idealistic, but if I don’t strive for idealism then I may as well not get up in the morning.
One way to reconcile this is with something one of my favorite people told me: she said, if you can’t do a job that you absolutely love, then find something you can love about the job you have.
With that said, I’m ecstatic that I have a snow day off from work tomorrow 🙂
“We are better than we know. If we can be made to see it, perhaps for the rest of our lives, we will be unwilling to settle for less.” – Anonymous
Some people (mostly men, I think) struggle with over-inflated ego. They think they are better than most; they believe that they deserve more than everyone else.
I am not one of those people. I think I am like many women, in that, I struggle with not thinking enough of myself, thinking that I DON’T deserve certain things, and experiencing low self-worth. WHY do we do this to ourselves? We all have amazing and different qualities to offer this world; yet, for some reason we don’t believe it. Actually, it’s not just “some reason”. I can think of plenty of reasons: abusive childhood, abusive relationships, alcohol or drug addiction, abandonment, strained parental relationships, society, our culture/media’s portrayal of women, and on and on ad infinitum.
However, we are not victims. Some of the things on that list have affected me personally, but none of them is an excuse to hate myself. Then, why is it a continual struggle to show myself the love that so many other people have for me: God, my parents, my friends, my dogs? It seems that if I don’t have romantic love in my life, then there is no love at all. That could not be farther from the truth, but it is so hard for me to see and believe that on a daily basis.
Someone very special and important to me told me the other day to believe that others believe until I can believe it myself. So, when my faith and self-love is lacking, all I have to do is remember that she believes.
Do you believe?
Fall in love with your life today.